If you and your spouse are getting divorced, one of the most difficult conversations you will have is with your children as you inform them of your impending split. If your children are especially young, this life-altering news will be especially challenging for them to cope with, which is why it is crucial to handle this conversation with extra care and forethought. To help guide you through this process, we put together a list of tips on how to proceed.
Talking About Divorce
Your children likely never imagined you and your spouse would ever part ways, so learning about your decision to divorce will not be easy for them to quickly process. To soften the blow, you and your spouse need to collaborate and plan what you will say. It may seem impossible to work together at this stage, but having this conversation with them as a team will help them feel safe and secure during an uncertain time.
You should also agree not to discuss why you are getting divorced. The only thing your children need to know is that they were not in any way responsible for the end of your marriage and that you will both be happier. However, do not try to point fingers at one another or play the blame game.
Here are some additional tips that will help you with this conversation:
- Schedule this conversation before a weekend, so your children have some time to think about the information they learned and ask any follow-up questions.
- Reassure them that your divorce will not impact your love for them. Both of you will always be their parents and continue to raise them as a team.
- Let them know what they can expect. For example, if you or your spouse are moving out, let them know when, where, and how often they can visit. If you do not have this information now, let them know as soon as you can to ease their anxieties.
Your children might not have anything to say about this news right away, so make sure they understand they can come to you any time with any questions or concerns they think of later.
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