Children thrive on consistent and stable environments and, unfortunately, after a divorce, life can seem anything but stable. Creating a steadfast environment may be an even greater challenge now that your children will essentially go between two different households if you share custody, but it is not impossible. Continue reading to learn how to get started on this task.
Working with Your Co-Parent to Create a Stable Environment
The aftermath of a divorce can be confusing for children, particularly if each parent's household is substantially different. When children are allowed to play video games late into the evening in one home and must adhere to a strict bedtime schedule in another, it can create conflict, confusion, and increase tension in the family.
Regardless of the age of your children, predictable routines can help ease their anxieties and provide a sense of safety and security during an uncertain time. Moreover, routines will also help teach your children healthy boundaries and how to develop good habits, which will ultimately benefit them as they continue to grow and mature.
Collaborating with your former spouse on this matter may be a tall order if you have a contentious relationship, but it is essential for your children.
Here are some tips on how to approach it:
- Find out each other's stance on certain key issues.
- Determine what consequences you should enforce for non-compliance with the rules.
- Determine what rewards should be given for good behavior.
- Discuss which matters on which you are willing to be flexible.
- Find an effective and unified way to deliver these rules to your children.
- Discuss whether or not one parent should be responsible for certain matters.
- Assess the prospective pitfalls and benefits of your chosen approach.
Be willing to revisit this conversation if you run into any hurdles. It may take some time before you can settle into a routine that works for your family and its changing dynamics.
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If you are encountering problems related to your children in the aftermath of your divorce that requires legal assistance, the family law team at Labovitz Law Firm can provide the knowledgeable guidance you need to overcome them. Our team is backed by 16 years of experience, which we will use to your advantage.
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